I coming from a family that may not be considered conventional but very tight. My mama went to the mat when were kids to get us the family time on the holidays. This gave us quality holidays because my father's family didn't gather like my mom's did. Having holidays with my mom kept us from eating pizza and ringing in the new year by ourselves with dear old dad-not that we didn't have lonely holidays like that.
When I got married the big question was, "how do you balance". His family or one of the many sides of mine. My husband came from a family more like my father's not that tight. When I first met his family in Colorado we met an aunt he had not visited with in more than a decade. I was shocked.
I still play this internal tug of war with things. We live in MN and most of his family lives everywhere else. Money is a big issue and time. You know that old saying "when you have time you have no money: when you have money-you have no time." I continue to save my pennies and hope we can do some traveling soon. I think my husband is happy with our life but I really would like to get us in the habit of seeing everyone and I don't want decades to pass before we visit family members again.
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